Expanding our capacity to love is not a soft or sentimental process. It is not forged in moments when everything is tidy, predictable, or comfortable. It is forged in moments that crack us open. The loss of someone we love. The ending of a relationship we believed would last. The sudden rupture of a life we were certain of. These moments do not politely knock on the heart’s door. They split it. They press directly into the chest. They bypass our philosophies and go straight f